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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Major-Dot-7858 on 2023-09-16 08:06:33.
For some background info: I am 25F. My boyfriend is 31M. He is in the process of building a house and has been very stressed over not only the process but the money it is costing him. I am in graduate school. I don’t have much money right now but the money I do have is mostly going towards school. We have been dating for a year.
My boyfriend and I went to the state fair tonight. I expressed to him how excited I was to go and get this specific food that I only get once a year at the fair. I grabbed some cash from my car and threw it into my purse before we went in. I paid for both of our admission tickets and an order of curly fries we shared. He bought us two hot sausages. Then, we went over to the stand that I was most excited for, but he was not getting anything from this stand. The line was very VERY long. We waited for about a half hour… He expressed a desire for us to just leave and not wait any longer, but I said I really wanted this one so we waited. He also mentioned that he wanted me to take it to go, but I said I really wanted to eat it at the fair while it was still hot. It is the kind of food that isn’t good after sitting for a while.
We finally got to the front of the line and I reached into my purse to pay when I realized I didn’t have enough cash left. I thought I had grabbed more than I did from my car. I would never do this on purpose. I said to him… “I messed up and didn’t grab enough money. Is there any way you could give me $5 and I will pay you back when we get back to the car?” He was immediately disgusted with me and couldn’t believe I would not bring enough money into the fair but he gave me the money. Then I realized I actually needed one more dollar so I asked if I could have just one more dollar and reiterated that I would immediately pay him back when we got to the car. He was VERY disgusted with me at the point and snapped at me “for WHAT?” because he couldn’t understand why I needed another dollar. His tone of voice immediately made me tear up. When the guy working the stand asked if it was for here or to go, I told him to go, and we left. The WHOLE reason we went to the fair was for me to get something from this stand because I love it, and I ended up crying and having to take it to go.
We walked to the car silently and I immediately reached into the glove box to pay him back and he wouldn’t let me open it and said just to drive. That he didn’t want me to pay him back. He said (loudly) that I am completely ridiculous and a baby. I told him I was already nervous to ask him for the money in the first place and then his response just made everything worse, and he could not believe I said I was afraid to ask him for money. I said well look at the way you responded… why wouldn’t I have been? He claimed that he thought I was “joking” when I asked for the extra dollar and that’s why he acted the way he did… But I don’t believe it. You could tell in the moment it was genuine irritation. AITA?
Edit: the food I wanted was a Stromboli. It was 9.50, and I had 4 dollars left in my purse.