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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Cold-Range9355 on 2023-09-16 01:18:26.
My daughter (26F) was abandoned by her husband when my grandson was 3 months old. Since she couldn’t support herself, I let her move into my house.
I (56F) have a hectic routine where I do my things (work, gym, etc.) until 5PM and from 6PM to 8PM I stay with my grandson until my daughter arrives.
Currently, to help my daughter, I pay the expenses at home and she pays for daycare and the baby’s things (diapers, formula, etc.). And there’s still plenty left for her to save up to eventually move.
I decided that I would take a month off next month to rest, without necessarily traveling.
When my daughter found out about the vacation, she talked about the possibility of saving money on daycare to save up to move since I could stay with my grandson.
I immediately said no, as it is my rest and taking care of a child for 6h/5d+2h at night is not in my plans, but that I could help in the morning so she can rest, but the afternoon was out of the question (my grandson stays in daycare on afternoon)
She started crying, saying that she was trying to gain independence and eventually move out, but that being a single mother was so hard and I wasn’t making it any easier. Basically she begged me to at least stay another 3 hours, but I stuck to what I said.
I really want to rest and a 14 month old baby who is walking and curious I know I won’t get that rest, but I can’t help but feel guilty about my daughter’s situation. I love my grandson, but it is also my rest.
AITA?