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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Earninglife on 2023-09-15 20:14:19.
I (F30) was in a relationship with my Ex for two years. We lived together for most of it. He has two daughters (8,6) from his previous relationship and they used to visit every other week end. They are nice kids and we got along great.
But as my ex started dumping more and more parental duties on me, and even got custody renewed for 50% of time, I started feeling exhausted and trapped.He refused to listen to my requests or concerns basically saying they are my kids too, I shouldn’t complain about kids etc. Then he went on a fishing trip on the weekend his girls were here, without discussing with me. I was tired of his behaviour and as soon as he got back, I left him. This was 8 months back.
Thing is, I used to be the breadwinner and caregiver in the relationship. I paid most of our bills and since I worked from home, was primary caregiver for girls. My moving out left him in scrambles especially since he can’t afford bills or afford childcare.
Yesterday he called me saying how he hasn’t paid rent since and is in debt since I left him. I told him its not my problem anymore. He said it was cause of me that he took 50% custody (he never asked me) and now his ex refuse to change it back. That I should atleast send him money to make payments so they aren’t evicted. That I owed that to him and his kids “who saw me as mom”.
I told him while I love them, neither they nor he was my responsibity. I told him not to bother me again and he called me AH for not caring about the kids.
AITA?