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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/2AMTearz on 2023-09-15 21:59:10.
I (F24) have a cousin (F27) who is a single mom with a three year old daughter. We both have Fibromyalgia, except she gets disability for it and has never worked a day in her life. I have not tried to apply for disability, as I want to work until I can’t. She won’t even work an office desk job and plays up her disability to anyone who will listen. She also has government housing, and discounted utility bills. She uses WIC and EBT. I have seen her do very physical tasks, so I know if she wanted to, she could.
I was talking to her the other day about how I couldn’t help her with her light bill this time because I was running dry on my own money, and she got upset saying “I don’t understand.how you work so much but never have any money, I’m able to afford rent and food and I have a child but you don’t even have a child, so where is your money going? I think you just are overspending. If I’m able to make it work, you should be too.” So I blew up on her and told her “the only reason you’re able to “make it work” is because everyone carries your ass. You’re on government assistance for everything, you are capable of working but won’t, and you have me and other people in the family pay for the bills you “can’t afford”. How many times have I paid your phone bill? Your electric? How about water? Or putting gas in your car? You do practically nothing to improve your life you just bitch about money until someone gives in and gives it to you.” She got angry and said she was just trying to help because clearly I’m not managing my money right or I’d have enough, and I said “you’re only concerned about me having enough so I can support your lazy ass”. And she told me to leave. Everyone else said I was being too harsh, but I think it was justified because how is she going to criticize me about my money when she doesn’t even do anything for her own money?