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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/uronurownk_d on 2023-09-15 17:14:14.
I (M 29) and a single father who’s currently not looking for a relationship because my #1 priority is my young son. I’ve dated casually but always give them the disclaimer that I don’t want anything serious. I started seeing Alicia (F 27) a few months ago, and we get along amazing. I told her in the beginning that I was looking for a FWB and won’t be ready for a serious relationship until my son is at least 12 (he’s now 5). She said she’s looking for the same thing…
We went from just having sex to developing more of a friendship because we genuinely get along so well. I see Alicia whenever my son is with his mother, go to the movies, game together, go for dinners. I never stay over or let her stay over though. I feel like that’s relationship territory, but sometimes we fall asleep at each other’s house till like 3am before driving home. I see us as really really good pals who occasionally sleep together. I’d asked Alicia a few weeks back if she wanted to be my plus 1 to a buddy’s wedding and she said yes. But yesterday she sent me this video. It’s basically a tiktok of a poem about being stuck in a situationship, and I was so caught off guard???
I did some snooping and there doesn’t appear to be too many likes on the video and the poster isn’t one of those famous tiktokers so I doubt it appeared on Alicia’s page organically, so she must’ve been searching for “situationships” or videos in a similar vein? And no, i know she did not write it herself because… grammar and spelling is not her strongest suit lol. My guess is she sought out videos on situationships or catching feelings on tiktok and sent me one as a “hint”?
Anyway I ended up telling her that maybe coming to the wedding as my plus 1 is not a good idea and crossing too many boundaries, and she hasn’t spoken to me since. I’ve been texting her to ask to talk about it, but she hasn’t responded and has since reposted that poem on her instagram. I’d like to apologize if I gave her the wrong impression, but I thought we were in agreement of our FWB situation. Did I tip the scales with the wedding invite? AITA?