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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/BanannaTama on 2023-09-15 19:06:00.
I need advice and direction.
My child’s father has been publicly accused on social media of a brutal rape. The woman reported him and was going through the legal process, but her case was dropped (their relationship involved kinks, and the powers that be felt a jury would struggle with that. I feel they likely kink-shamed her). She’s looking to spread word about him (asking people to share her story on social media) and what happened to her, and is going to file a private criminal suit and a civil suit against him (from what I’ve been told).
The alleged rape happened nearly a year ago, but I only learned about any of it this week. While it hasn’t gone viral, I fear it might; the shares are increasing every day. It’s already spreading around our community, and I’m desperate to keep our child safe and as insulated as possible.
I don’t think our child is in danger with his father, but I also never thought he would be accused of rape. I’m struggling with so much cognitive dissonance that I don’t know what, if anything, I should be doing in regards to my son (legally speaking). My personal support network is all in shock over this and no one has advice. I tried reaching out to his pediatrician, but they’re out of the country on vacation until the end of the month. I don’t have a lawyer for custody. I feel very alone in dealing with the mental load of this. We have equally shared legal and physical custody, but I told him I think it’s best if our child stays with me for the whole week. I didn’t want to take the chance of him taking his mood out on our son or having our son overhear his dad’s phone calls about this. I don’t know any other mothers who have been in this situation, and I could really use some direction and support. I don’t know where to look. I just want to do what’s best for our child.