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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/SoftPinkUnderbelly on 2023-09-15 02:53:27.
I put myself in jeopardy by reaching out to her as a complete stranger, as this could obviously backtrack should she not listen or believe me at all and tell the acquaintance (for the lack of a better word) of mine. But, she didn’t, as far as I’m concerned.
The woman said she appreciated my concerns, but she felt she had it under control. Under no circumstances did I understand why she, not being related to my acquaintance at all and having become friends during a vacation, was so adamant on remaining in contact with this acquaintance. Until I realized she must be hesitant to break contact because this acquaintance is wealthy, has the means, and likes to keep people close with financial or material bribes. This acquaintance is extremely narcissistic and prays on the weak, all of which I told this woman, they might even seem charismatic enough in the beginning and get under your skin.
Fast forward to present time, things did happen after all because the woman contacted me asking if I can help her move forward building a case against this acquaintance. I was just in shock. All this time I had hoped she had listened to me eventually.
I don’t want to be involved at all and it sickens me she refused to listen to me when I warned her 3 years ago. I told her that if she involves me and I’m called in as a witness in any way, I will make a case against her rather than help her. I warned her and she didn’t listen, I told her the exact consequences of what could happen and that she would be selling her soul to the devil if she chose to stay ‘‘friends’’ for monetary gain or whatever it was, ultimately putting her child in danger, mildly put.
And yet I feel extremely guilty for some reason for this having happened even though I did what I could. What is it with people and refusing to believe these things do or can happen, until they happen to them? I’m just in shock and I’m just angry. I feel like an asshole for refusing to help her, but I tried, and now I’m holding her responsible for letting the worst happen to her child when it was PREVENTABLE.
I’m trying to come to clarity and I want to help the child get justice, but not in any way do I feel like helping the mother in this.
Edit: I do feel incredibly bad for the mother objectively, I don’t think any parent should go through this, but that is also exactly why I reached out to her to begin with. This is not me wanting to punish the mother in any way, but I can not say I can support her either. I’m torn between those two.
The reason why I found out that she knew my acquaintance is because the acquaintance reached out to me in a very malevolent message telling me so. He told me about a woman he had met, and oh, she also has a child.
I tracked down the woman in social media, I took a screenshot of that conversation with the abuser and showed it to her, along with court documents, hospital forensic documents, scans of journal pages, scans of older photos of bruises and marks. I pleaded with her over the course of a night, messaging back and forth. She kept reassuring me that she would never have her child within the acquaintance’s company and their relationship was only between her and the acquaintance although he had previously sent gifts meant for her child as well. She thanked me for reaching out and said she was sorry for what happened, but she believed the acquaintance must have changed since then. She just couldn’t see him in the way that I myself portrayed him, basically. So because of that, she just couldn’t see anything happening. When I then asked her if she was receiving gifts or money, she didn’t really reply, other than that there had been some holidays and birthday gifts involved. She also said that she was married, so she wouldn’t be alone in either case. She then said they had been planning on visiting the acquaintance so he could meet her husband with her baby, but would probably rethink it after learning this. This is the shortest summary of that long conversation back and forth.
So where everything went and what happened exactly after this, I have no idea apart from something happening along the lines of what I warned her about and that she now needs help moving further with this.