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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/toadpuddles on 2023-09-14 05:42:14.

I (20F) was outside yesterday when my neighbor (21M) asked for my number. He is cute and we knew each other as kids so I said yes. I was honestly excited to get attention from a guy outside of a dating app, and his parents are really sweet.

He immediately starts spamming me with texts, which was off putting but I was being generous because maybe he was just excited. Then he asks me why I didn’t say “goodnight” to him, so I tell him I don’t really do that? I’ve never heard of someone saying goodnight to someone they’ve just started texting. The next morning he’s asking me if I’m mad at him, then asking for pictures. I’m getting annoyed but I keep being generous. Maybe he’s not good at texting.

The texts keep escalating until he calls me twice in one hour at 10pm. I ignore both because it’s 10PM and I don’t even know him! He then gets angry at me for “abandoning him when he needs me” because his friend just died?? He wanted me to walk outside of my house at 10pm so he could cry on my shoulder.

I tell him if he’s having a hard time he needs to talk to family or someone close because I don’t know you!!

Queue the classic rant. “I was never even interested in you.” “You’re too pretty to act like this.” “I have tons of girls I don’t need you.” “You’re heartless.”

It was an absolute wall of text all because I didn’t want to be his therapist after knowing him for all of one day. I knew it was a bad idea flirting with a neighbor.

I usually have a smoke outside on my porch before bed and now I’m fucking nervous. I’m scared to take my dog outside because now there’s an angry man across the street from me. I live with my parents and I know my dad has my back but I’m so pissed I even have to be nervous now.

Istg men act like this 9/10 times we exchange numbers. Is it just the guys I attract? Is there some kind of emotional crisis affecting young men in 2023?

This kind of thing has sucked all the fun out of flirting and dating. I kindof expect every guy I talk to now to be emotionally unstable, I’ve hardly met guys who aren’t. Is it too much to expect guys to just be NORMAL and to understand I have a life outside of interacting with them?