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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/List_Legal on 2023-09-13 23:56:08.


28F. I could write a novel on this but my basic questions are… how are we supposed to see the nonstop news where men who look perfectly normal (have families, seem respectful and genuine etc.) turn out to be rapists and NOT start to feel like all men are that way?

Even in real life people I’ve known turn out to be huge creeps (or worse) and I would have never guessed it. Old men who seem so sweet suddenly make inappropriate comments about touching me. I can think back to many many many many occasions where I was just naive and thought oh “THAT GUY IS A CREEP” when it’s becoming clear that they are all creeps. Some just hide it better …. until they don’t?

I don’t want to feel this way though! I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to think about him that way. But logic tells me I can’t just choose to think he’s some perfect anomaly. Is the life of men just constantly fighting the urge to fuck women?! Cause that’s how it seems. Even as I’m writing this more memories are coming to mind about horrible things men said to me when I was not even 18.

Basically I just want to know if anyone has any advice on how to believe not all men are horrible people who would take the opportunity to take advantage of women if given no punishment.

Am I out of luck? Haha 🙃