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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/14PulsarsFromOurSun on 2023-09-13 19:35:58.
My grandma and i were extremely close and on the third day of grieving, my dad asked if i was sad because “it was that time of the month”.
I’ve brought it up for years, telling him how angry that comment made me and all he ever said was, “i didn’t mean it like that”. over and over, the same fucking sentence.
i was 19. since I was 8, EIGHT, i would bath my grandma, provide medical care (she had a tracheostomy), feed her, change her diapers, etc. I didn’t do it alone, my mom and I would split the work. even my dad, after working for sometimes over 11hrs a day would come and help feed or change her diapers.
he wasn’t a dead beat, he worked extremely hard all his life to provide for us and loved spending his free time hanging out with family. him and i were especially close, he has always been so kind and loving.
but that comment cut so incredibly deep and i just can’t get over the hurt.