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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sillybilly8585 on 2023-09-13 14:22:15.
My wife (40) and I (42) have one son (8). She is a US citizen, originally from South America. She has some extended family here in the U.S., but her immediate family is still in her native country and if she wants to see them, she must travel there (they can’t come here). We’ve been together for 12 years and I have gone with her 3 times. The last couple times she has gone with our kid, but I have not gone. Between flights (we have airline miles but it covers only about half of the flight costs), other transportation there, eating out, etc, she claims to spend about $2000 when she goes. She is pissed at me because she thinks I should give her, if not half a good amount toward these trips. My point is, I am not going, I am not enjoying the experience, I shouldn’t have to. If I one day take my kid on a trip just the two of us I wouldn’t expect any help with the cost. Financial background: We have a joint account for all joint bills and we have our own accounts for our own bills. When we travel, we try not to touch the joint account for that. I have no debt except for a 0% interest car loan that I could just pay off tomorrow if I wanted to. She has thousands of dollars in credit card debt that she is working hard on paying off and a car loan that is almost done. We have a mortgage that is 25% done. We make almost the exact same amount of money. AITA for not wanted to hand over $500-$700 for a trip that I’m not going on?