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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Consistent_Event1206 on 2023-09-13 17:44:35.
My husband and I have three children together. Our youngest was born this summer. We have always named our kids after people by not using their direct name. Our oldest girl is Jamie after my brother James, our middle daughter is Cleo after my sister Chloe and our youngest son is Devon after my husband’s best friend Devine. We spoke to each person we honored prior to finalizing the name. My siblings were so happy and my husband’s best friend was over the moon. We also never publicly said oh we named them after these people. We would just announce the names and leave it there.
After my third child was born my half sister (12) asked me if I would name our next child after her. I told her I would not. She asked if I would name any child I have after her and my answer was the same, no.
She was upset about this. This angered my mom who said it was clear my kids were named after people and I shouldn’t just honor two siblings and not honor all three. I replied that it should be mine and my husband’s choice what we name our children and who we name them after. Mom said I looked my baby sister in the face and crushed her heart and soul and told her that she is not a real sibling and only full siblings are worthy of being honored. She said I had treated a child like shit and I should have offered to let her help pick a name or something to smooth things over. But instead I said no and acted like her feelings didn’t matter.
My mom also had some things to say to my husband and he ignored her. He told me about it and I told her to keep my husband out of it.
She said I can take the role of sole asshole. Though she said my siblings were close since they didn’t care about our half sister feeling upset either, according to mom.
AITA?