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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AggravatingAd9216 on 2023-09-13 09:01:14.

I’m 22 and she’s 25. My sister (Mia)’s son is 7 months old and the father is not in her baby’s life at all. He basically dipped the week after the baby was born. I’ve been supporting the both of them financially while my sister Mia gets back on her feet and looks for a job to pay the bills all on her own.

Fast forward to 2 days ago, she calls me excitedly, telling me she has big news. Deep down in my heart I already knew what she was about to say and my intuition was confirmed when she said she was pregnant again.

She went on and on about how she met a new guy she hadn’t told me about and how nice he treats her and the baby. That she really feels like he’s the one and how she can’t wait for the family she was supposed to have.

I basically laid it out straight to her. She hasn’t been dating this guy for very long, and yet she’s already pregnant and wanting to marry him simply because he treats her and the baby “nicely”. He isn’t helping with bills, or providing in anyway. This was not likely to last and she’ll be a single mom of 2. Not to mention how dangerous it is to get pregnant this soon after giving birth.

She told me I was being “fake” and that I wasn’t acting like family. That I should support her like our mother is. Turns out, our mother is kissing her ass and only enforcing the rose colored glasses Mia has on the situation. Telling her stories of how our stepdad only knew her for 2 months before he married her and blah blah.

I told her that I can’t support her or any other children should she decide to go through with this. I essentially said “I’m not pressuring you into anything. This is your choice, but I refuse to be financing this choice. You’re on your own Mia. I can’t enable you digging yourself further in holes you can’t climb out of cause of irresponsible unplanned pregnancies and I refuse to”

Of course, she didn’t take that well. Started crying and saying how I just don’t want her to be happy, how much of a bitch I am and hung up. Our mother isn’t very happy with me now. I do feel bad. I don’t think I worded it the best, nor should I have called her irresponsible.

I’m just at my breaking point. AITA?