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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/R0B3RUTE on 2023-09-12 22:08:54.
Let’s start by saying I’m in the US and she’s from Puerto Rico ( a us territory so she’s a American as well but from a very different cultural background). We started dating with the known fact that I had recently gotten out of a severely abusive relationship where I had been put in massive debt by my ex. She knows I also work a job that does not make nearly as much as she does (I work private security and she is a full time RN). We agreed on 50/50 for dates and I often cover full dinners at times even when I cannot afford it. Recently she’s been sending me tiktoks speaking about “if he loves you he’d pay for everything” and I confronted her about it. I asked if she was suggesting I pay for everything and she said yes, but due to her cultural upbringing it’s considered a sign of love. That if I loved her I’d pay and take care of her. I told her it’s not in the cards for me right now, and that I’m trying to go to school and become a RN myself so that I could possibly do what she wants. Am I the asshole for saying I’m not able to completely support her even though she has way more money than me and is completely independent otherwise? I thought 50/50 was fair and financially understandable. Am I wrong?
EDIT: (I will also like to note my last relationship was over a year ago)