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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ahnannahmus on 2023-09-12 14:50:08.
I feel as if my boyfriend sees me as a “project”, doesn’t give me a chance to grow and mature on my own, and wants to mold me into what he thinks is the perfect version of myself. I’m conflicted because maybe he’s just trying to put me on the right track, but at the same time I feel like I can’t be who I really am around him.
One thing he doesn’t like is the fact that I smoke/consume weed, and occasionally drink. I can count on one hand how many times I smoke weed within a month and I only drink and smoke when I’m hanging out with friends. Still it’s an issue for him, he says it’s “unhealthy for my womb”. He gets on me about my credit score, saving habits, who I’m friends with, lifestyle choices, etc
When we first got together he kept wanting me to watch this religious show and take me to church. I believe in God but I’m not heavy on religion like he is. The biggest thing is he wants to get married this year, move, settle down, and have kids soon.
So I feel he is trying to “fix” and mold me into someone I’m not right now. Eventually I want those things but not right now. And I’m starting to think if I am better off single than in a relationship, because while I don’t dislike him as a person, I dislike being in a relationship and all the responsibilities and compromises that come with it.
TL;DR: My boyfriend wants to change me, disapproves of my choices, and pushes for marriage and religion. I’m considering if I’d be happier single.