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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FondantOk240 on 2023-09-11 15:09:03.
My friend(19) and I(20) had plan a month long trip to Vietnam and Thailand. We have just finished our Thailand part of the trip and were packing to leave for Vietnam, our fight was in a couple of hours. While packing she realised she had lost her passport. For context she has been fairly careless this trip with her bank card being blocked because she didn’t tell her bank she was leaving the country and losing her phone by leaving it around our hostel.
When she found out she had lost her passport she immediately called her brother and avoided/ignored my questions because she was stressed. I asked her if we should look up how to get emergency passport and she said no she is too stressed and her brother will find out what to do. The whole time she was avoiding me by walking into different rooms giving one word reply. So I decided that I would be no help by staying in the hotel and our flight was in an hour so I would just go to Vietnam. I had already booked and paid for my whole trip in advance and I didn’t want to lose the money. I also felt like I was getting in the way and was confused what was happening. At the time she was fine with my decision to leave, hugging me goodbye and telling me she will miss me.
However when I landed, I got a text from our mutual friend that she is really mad at and is telling everyone I abandoned her in a different county. When I asked her about this she said that now that she has had some time to think about this, she thinks I’m an asshole for leaving and if the situation was reversed she would’ve stayed. She said I should’ve offered to stay and she shouldn’t have to ask.
Our friends say they understand both sides but my family say I’m in the right as I shouldn’t waste my trip and money