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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/adelaidejade on 2023-09-11 01:30:54.

I (23F) got engaged two years ago. My wedding will take place this December. My best friend (22F, she is also my maid of honor) got a new boyfriend a few weeks ago. She asked me if he could come with her to my wedding. We have enough space and budget so I told her yes, but my fiancé (23M) and I will have to meet him first and she agreed.

The four of us went out to dinner that weekend and he seemed nice so we invited him to come to the wedding which he acccepted.

Yesterday was my wedding shower and my best friend and her boyfriend both attended. Everything was going fine until he started being quite vocal about his opinions on both my and my fiancé’s family. The party was held at my future SIL’s house which he started making snide comments on.

“Wow, your kitchens so tiny! I can barely move around in here.”

“Living rooms a bit of a mess, Maybe you should just let (sil’s husband) bring home the bacon and you can stay here and clean up.”

“Jeez, your grass is so overgrown! Don’t you have any pride in your the integrity of your home?”

These are all direct quotes. My fiancé asked SIL if she wanted him to say anything to which she replied that it was alright and she didn’t want to start conflict. 5 minutes later, he was back at it. My older sister and her husband recently had their first child. A baby boy who is now two monthes old. My parents were cooing at the baby when he came up to him.

“Is this the new baby? Lets hope god is on his side and he doesn’t look this messed up when he grown up.” He said followed by a burst of laughter.

I was about to tell him off by my sister told me not to because she doesn’t want to make a scene. I didn’t agree, but I talked to my fiancé and we both agreed that he would not be allowed at our wedding any longer. I decided to tell my best friend after the party.

The last straw was when he started being this way towards my younger sister (8F). She is the flower girl at my wedding.

“Aww, what a cute dress! Of course she should probably loose some weight before the wedding.” Followed by more obnoxious laughter.

I lost my mind. I called him an imbocile and my fiancé told him he needed to fuck off. Five minutes of yelling and fighting later him along with my best friend got in their car and started driving off. Not before he flipped us off out the window though.

When I returned home at the shower and checked my phone I saw hundreds of angry texts from my best friends. I won’t recite all of them, but most were along the lines of people act different where he is from and that I need to get over this easily offended attitude I have. He is from somewhere in the UK.

Everyone else at the party agree with me and my fiancé but my best friend is very very upset with me and now is saying that she refuses to attend my wedding if he won’t also be there. I don’t know what to do.

AITA?

Edit: Would like to mention that my best friend was only present for the last joke he made. She was within a distance she could hear it, biut she was talking to some of my other bridesmaids so I am not sure she did. I have no idea if he still acts like this when they are alone.