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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Next-Chemical7897 on 2023-09-10 18:50:05.
I (F40s) have a daughter Taylor (F16).
During Summer holidays (we live in the UK), our neighbour Jenny (F30s) put her kids, (F9, M7) in holiday club. She asked if Taylor could walk them home from holiday club and babysit for 2 hours, 5 days a week, so that she can stay later at work.
Taylor agreed and Jenny has been paying her £40 a week for this. My daughter is just happy to have extra money to fund her Starbucks and Amazon addiction.
In August, Jenny called me. She explained that a valuable silver bracelet has gone missing from her bedroom. She claimed no one else has been in her house and she thinks Taylor has taken it, and asked if I could search Taylors things. I know I sound like a typical doting parent but I know my daughter and she wouldn’t do something like that. I was shocked.
I told Jenny I’d look but that Taylor is not babysitting for her again. She was angry and she said that me and my daughter are screwing her over and she doesn’t have other arrangements (shes a single mother), and she called me childish names before hanging up.
I later calmly explained to Taylor what happened and that I don’t want her to babysit for our neighbour again, as she might accuse her of stealing other things and demand money. Taylor said I’m being controlling and that she ‘needs’ the money, and keeps trying to convince me that it’s still a good gig.
Last week Jenny texted me profusely apologising and explained that it was actually her sister who stole the bracelet and she pawned it. I left her on read as I don’t really know what to say.
I feel crappy that I’ve managed to upset everyone and I need outside opinions.