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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/timeforquestion on 2023-09-10 17:56:51.
My daughter (26F) is really miffed by this but I really don’t see why it’s such a big deal.
I (60F) try to have dinner with my daughter and her partner (26F) once a month. Recently, they let me know that they are engaged, and I couldn’t be happier for them.
To preface, my daughter is a genius. Parents say this all the time, but my daughter was in graduate school at 15 and contracting for multiple governments by 19. She worked very hard throughout her childhood (entirely by her own choice, I never forced her), and has a wonderful career very early into her life as a result.
However, her social skills are rather stunted, and she has a tendency to jump into long, complicated answers to questions, speaks incredibly fast, and often gets frustrated when people don’t follow (her father and I do NOT). This caused her a lot of difficulties in her original forays into dating.
My DIL to be is a perfectly wonderful person. She’s very smart and capable, but clearly not on the same level as my daughter (which I don’t expect her to be). At our most recent dinner I asked her the titular question. While she took it in stride, my daughter is calling the question “insane.”
I just want to know my baby isn’t making her partner feel bad.