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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowAway8998102 on 2023-09-10 05:16:30.

I (37F) have a daughter (17F) who we’ll call Jess. Jess has been dating Will (18M) for about 3 months, and she is over the moon about it. The thing about Will is before he was in a relationship with my daughter, he had dozens of sexual relationships with both boys and girls from their school and other places. From what my daughter has told me, he did not take a lot, if any precautions with most of these people. Recently, Jess sat me down and asked if she could go on birth control. Obviously I asked what had changed, and she was open and told me that her and Will had been thinking about taking their relationship to the next level. This made me nervous because I made mistakes when I was in high school and college, and I had to live with the consequences of my actions. I told my daughter if she wanted to go on birth control and have sex, she had to make Will get tested. She was immediately offended, saying that Will was clean, and had no signs of anything from his previous relationships. I said she needed to be safe, and that I thought I thought I as clean when I wasn’t. My daughter said I was just a slut and I didn’t need to worry about her. I found this really hurtful, and I snapped back that it wasn’t my fault that her boyfriend is a player and a womanizer, and just wants to get in her pants. After that, I said I will not enable her having sex if she doesn’t make him get tested. She stormed off and left in her car, and won’t pick up her phone. I know I was harsh, but I just want my daughter to be safe. Am I the asshole?