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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Available-Club6461 on 2023-09-10 13:58:54.

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I’m still so torn up over this, I’ve felt like a zombie for the past few days, I apologize if my wording isn’t great.

I (28F) and my husband(33M) have been together for five years and we’re expecting our first child. We went to visit my parents Friday for dinner. Things were normal until we broke the news. My dad(53M) was happy, but my mom(50F) seemed bothered by it. She usually talks a lot but she was quiet over dinner and excused herself early. Afterwards, my husband and father were outside so I went to talk to her. She sat me down and said she needed to tell me something.

She said that a year before my husband and I started dating, she had slept with him. I feel so sick just thinking about this. Apparently, it was a one time thing. She tried convincing me to should leave him and even offered to let me move back in and help raise the baby, but I didn’t want to hear anything else from her. I went to my husband, told him we were leaving, and haven’t talked to him much since. He works on the weekends, so avoiding him hasn’t been hard. My mother texted and called me so many times that I blocked her, and have yet to unblock her number. My father hasn’t texted or called me, so I doubt he has any idea that somethings wrong.

My parents have never been separated and, as far as I know, didn’t have any history of infidelity. I don’t know how to talk to my husband about this, but I want to know if I would be the asshole for telling my brother (22M) who is close friends with my husband, as well as my father. On one hand, I feel like my dad should know. On the other, I’m scared of how it might change the way he interacts with my future child. My mother also relies on him to provide for her and, as disgusted and angry as I am, I don’t want her to be on the street.