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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Papasconqueso193 on 2023-09-10 07:41:51.
Sometimes when I (15F) do some really bad sht, my mom (36) usually says “this is not how I raised you”. I always kept quiet, hearing her out and just saying sorry, but the other day I was just so mad and I spat out that it wasn’t how she raised me, because she didn’t raise me, and I was glad she didn’t. I do have memories with her from when I was a child, but I would spend most of the time with my grandma or with nannies once she moved us across the country. I understand she had to work, and while I thank her for everything she gave me and all, it just seems unfair for her to say that when there were times she would just see me once a month. When my brother (7) was born, she stopped working, but didn’t last long as she soon opened her own restaurant, but still, she got to spend more time with him. Then, when my sister (4) was born, she stopped working again. She does work now, but from home so that she has more time for us.
I really don’t care that she wants to spend more time with them than she did with me, but I think it shows a lot the difference between us as we raised very differently, they don’t respect boundaries, they flat out laugh at you when you ask them not to do something, and keep doing it, they don’t respect privacy, nor personal things, for example, my sister cut one of my magazines, I wouldn’t mind if it was some random magazine, but it was all abt my favourite artist, and I bought it wit my own money. As of right now, my sister is crying bc I wouldn’t let her have the window seat during the car ride.
Overall they’re severely spoiled and you can’t denny them anything bc they’ll cry and throw a tantrum. I thought all kids were like this, but I spent summer with my dad (40) and my sisters (8,5) behave nothing like that. I get that they’re older, but it’s honestly no excuse for my siblings to be like that. So AITA?