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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Amazing-Mention9502 on 2023-09-09 22:47:01.
my father (41m) and my mother (40f) divorced three years ago. i live with my mother. my father remarried a year ago. his wife has two children (18f) (15m).
me (18f) and my dad got a matching tattoo two years ago. it was a simple outline tattoo of a photo of us.
after my dad got married, things started to get a bit more distant between us because he started to spend more time with his new family. besides that, i think he doesn’t want to see me around them. i don’t know why, after all, i’ve never treated his wife or stepchildren bad.
yesterday he refused to meet me on a weekend when we were supposed to spend time together saying he was unavailable and he reposted a story of him hanging out with his new family that. while looking at the photo i saw that he got a new tattoo on his arm. it was an outline tattoo of a photo of him with his new family, just like the tattoo he got with me.
now i know that millions of people have these tattoos and it’s not my original design. still i’m disappointed that he got a tattoo with his new family in the same style as ours because i always thought that tattoo was special between us. now i’m thinking of getting it covered or removed.
i called my dad in the evening and asked him why he was hanging out with his family instead of meeting me. he said they planned it earlier which doesn’t make sense because it was agreed in court after the divorce that I could spend time with my dad every weekend. so “we planned it earlier” is a pretty bullshit excuse. he also knows that i’m totally okay with spending time with his family. when i told him that he said “it’s not that simple.” i guess i’m too dumb to understand “complicated” things because he doesn’t even try to explain it lol.
then i asked him why he got his new tattoo in the same style as ours. he said he didn’t think it would be a problem for me. i told him “you broke something special between us, how can you not realize that? i think i’m going to get my tattoo covered. you can do the same.” in result he thinks i’m overreacting and i shouldn’t be so selfish.
my mom says what my dad did wasn’t such a bad thing. she thinks we should sit down and talk, i’m not sure. AITA?