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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Significant-Trip908 on 2023-09-09 20:16:35.

I (24M) have been living with my roommate “Simon” (29M) for about a year.

I’m not in a relationship, but I occasionally bring one-night stands into our flat, which Simon explicitly told me he was okay with when we moved in together. That being said, I try not to bother him with excessive noises and any sexual activity is limited to my bedroom only, but I don’t make a secret of having someone over; eg. I offer breakfast the next morning and sometimes, Simon is already awake by the time the person leaves.

Just recently, Simon has started becoming increasingly hostile towards me whenever I have someone over. He is incredibly rude and condescending to any person I hook up with and has barged into my room in the morning, demanding I help him with something, causing my ons to leave in a hurry.

When I asked whether something was bothering him, he told me that he was fed up with guys like me “stealing girls” from guys like him. I asked what he meant by that and he said that it’s always players who “get all the girls” and he is left with nothing.

He tends to stay home on the weekends and whenever he meets up with someone, it’s usually to play video games with one of his friends, so I think it’s fair to say he isn’t really trying to meet new people.

I offered that he could come with me the next time I go if he wanted to get in contact with someone, but he turned down the idea because “nice, shy guys like him don’t have a chance with girls anyway”.

I then asked how exactly he expects to meet someone if he never goes out (he works remotely, never really leaves our flat apart from shopping and as far as I know, doesn’t do online dating). He got defensive and told me that he didn’t want one of the “sluts” I was picking up at the club anyway, and that he wanted a girl who preferred staying at home, so he wouldn’t find one in a bar either way.

I told him that he that he should stop blaming other people for his inability to find a date when he is not giving anyone the opportunity to even meet him and that he can’t expect women to randomly find him and ask him out, when there is no way for anyone to know he even exists.

He called me an AH because “it’s easy for me to make assumptions” and that it’s always f*ckboys who pretend dating is so easy when they’re the ones preventing the “good guys” from having a chance with girls.