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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No_Enthusiasm_7848 on 2023-09-09 20:06:45.
I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (22M) for almost 2 years now. Everything has been going rather well aside from his diet that he presses me to follow as well, which I am not comfortable with.
To give some context, I have never been skinny nor have I ever had any interest in being skinny. I’m not huge, just not thin. I ended up losing quite a bit of weight a couple of years ago prior to getting with my boyfriend so I was pretty thin at that point due to severe depression.
Once he and I moved in together, we had eaten anything we wanted and went out to eat quite frequently. I never ended up gaining weight from this until starting birth control to give him peace of mind.
I have never been able to conceive children so the thought of BC was very redundant to me but from his paranoia in possibly getting me pregnant forced me into making the decision to get the Depo shot so I went to Planned Parenthood and did it.
I was on the shot for 9 months and it made me gain all of the weight I had lost back and even more, my body has not been the same since. Now for the actual reasoning of this post, my boyfriend has put himself on a strict diet and has been pressuring me to follow this diet, count my calories, etc. But I’m just not interested in doing this… I can’t help but feel like he is losing attraction to me from how frequently he presses this diet on me.
Every time I get something for myself that doesn’t fit within his diet, he tells me no and to put it back because “I don’t have the calories for that” and it just makes me sick to my stomach every time so I decide against getting it. I just don’t know what to do or say to make this stop because it has started to plummet my self esteem.
I love him and he’s no doubt an amazing boyfriend to me, but I just need to know if I’m the one in the wrong for not wanting to follow this diet with him.