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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ConsciousFlight7402 on 2023-09-09 19:52:43.
Hey Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. This situation has been eating me up and I’d really appreciate some outsider perspectives.
So, my (28F) sister (26F) and I have had our ups and downs, as most siblings do. However, we’ve been really close the past few years, and I was so excited to have her as my maid of honor for my wedding last year.
Flashback to my wedding day, I had this beautiful dress that I spent a fortune on. After the ceremony and during the reception, I noticed some red wine had been spilled on the bottom of my dress. I was devastated. I later found out from a bridesmaid that my sister had accidentally knocked over her wine glass when she was trying to take a “funny” photo. She didn’t come forward about it and didn’t even apologize when I confronted her.
Fast forward to now. My sister is getting married and she’s fallen in love with a dress that’s way out of her budget. She asked if I’d help her pay for half of it as her wedding gift. I flat out refused. I brought up how she ruined my dress and didn’t take responsibility, and I feel like I shouldn’t have to contribute towards hers.
Now my family is divided. Half of them think I’m being petty and that I should let go of past grudges. The other half thinks I’m justified.
So, AITA for refusing to pay for my sister’s wedding dress after she ruined mine?