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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/agenttwix on 2023-09-09 18:31:21.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Were both in our early twenties, I just graduated college, and started my first “real job”. My parents were gracious enough to let me live at home rent free to get through school, but now that im graduated i am paying rent to them until i get my own place. She lives at home rent free as well, is still in college, and works a minimum wage job. She has awful spending habits, job hops, and is always broke - if not overdrafting already - by the time her next paycheck hits. I have helped her a lot in our relationship, probably too much. I get her out of some financial pickles, give her gas money here and there, and pay for her every time we stop and get coffee or a bite to eat. I offer to help her create a budget but she’s not interested. Im going to be looking for my first apartment/house and she talks about moving in. She tells me she cant pay for rent, but will help with groceries and utilities. The problem is, if she cant even afford for herself most of the time, i know once she moves in that the helping out with groceries and utilities will go away or never even start. If she’s financially irresponsible now, moving in with me isnt going to magically make her financially literate. I love my girlfriend and want to live with her, but i dont think i should be funding her living situation while she spends her money irresponsibly. I work hard for my money, and if she is living with me i expect contribution. I told her if she wants to live with me she needs to pay her share of the rent. Id cover utilities and our groceries. She gets upset and angry with me and tells me she cant afford it and that i dont love her or really dont want to live with her. AITA for wanting her to pay half?