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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Skincare_Saltwater on 2023-09-09 15:09:34.
I dont even know why im posting this, I think its ridiculous but my SIL, MIL and my own mother think im TA.
So my (17M) SILs (29F), family are hosting a family gathering, They are big on family and they have room to invite literally everyone, which includes, my parents, my older sister, and me, since we are technically family.
Now im big on skincare, i had horrible skin when i was 13, and it started as a way to fix it, but even after my skin got better i just like it, it keeps my skin looking good and i find it relaxing. I packed my essentials for the two weeks we would be there. Ill admit it was still quite alot but it wasnt inane.
No the room i was staying in i was sharing with one of SILs nieces near my age, the bedroom has an en-suite bathroom. i put my things on a shelf, i made sure with the niece that i wasnt taking up too much room.
SIL came in to check on us and saw all my things, she asked about some things i had since they were expensive brands (shes made it a big point that she and her family have a lot more money than my family over the years). I told her i saved and got them myself (i have a job). She asked to use them and i said no, bc they were expensive and i want them to last as longa s possible. She seemed annoyed but just left.
Over the next few days my SIL wac complaining that her skin was dry and itchy, i ididt think anything of it. Half way through the stay she came storming down the stairs and thew a small spray bottle at me, asking me why the fuck i did this to her. I was confused and asked what she meant. Turns out shes been going into the bathroom i share with her niece and using my skin care, but shes been using what she thought was a spray bottle of water at the end, but shes actually been using a bottle of salt water which i have bc i have 4 pretty fresh earpeircings.
At first ia sked why the fuck shes using my stuff, she said its her family’s house so she can use it, i tell her no, its my stuff and i said no. she just reiterated her first point and then asked my i would trick her like this, i explained that its salt water for my ears but she just called my a lair, asking why i would have it on the bathroom shelf next to the rest of my skincare stuff. She then went on about how i purposely ruined her skin.
I again tried explaining myself, SIL then turns to my mother and her mother and said she had asked about my skincare and i had explained everything and said the bottle was water, which was total bs, she only asked about my expensive ones. Her niece backed me up but SIL called niece a liar, MIL was pissed and said im horrible and just jealous of SIL and my mother said shes disappointed and embarrassed at me.
This then caused she and my dad to argue and now i feel like shit. SILs family and my mother are ignoring me or being passive-aggressive. And they even threw out my salt water and wont let em make a new batch, and have stopped me when i try. I dont know what to do, AITA?
EDIT: i had to removed this bc of character limit but i think ive confused some people, this isnt my dad’s family, this is my brother’s wife’s (SIL’s) family
Also while salt water is normally ok for your skin, daily exposure isnt, plus it might not even be the salt water, could very well be that she had a bad reaction to another product, what works for one person might not work on another. i just had a few people asking about that