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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Nik_shake on 2023-09-09 14:00:57.
I’m a 30-year-old who has been friends with Claire since college. We’ve shared countless memories and supported each other through thick and thin. She recently got engaged to her long-term partner, Mark, and they planned a destination wedding in a beautiful tropical location.
When Claire and Mark announced their wedding plans, I was thrilled for them. However, as the date approached, I faced a significant personal dilemma. My elderly grandmother, who lives across the country, fell seriously ill, and her condition deteriorated rapidly. The doctors gave her a limited time to live.
Given the circumstances, I felt an immense responsibility to be with my grandmother during her final moments. I knew that if I attended Claire’s wedding, I might not make it back in time to say goodbye to my grandmother. The wedding coincided with her critical condition, and I had to make a heartbreaking decision.
I explained the situation to Claire, and she was understandably upset. She accused me of being unsupportive and selfish for missing her big day. While I feel deeply sorry for not being there for my friend’s wedding, my priority was to be with my grandmother during her last moments.
So, AITA for choosing to be with my grandmother during her illness instead of attending my friend’s destination wedding, which meant a lot to her?