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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/yayah_wicca on 2023-09-09 04:14:00.

One year after having our son and I still struggle to forgive that when I was in labour I needed his help. It was 1-2 am, I was in pain. The contractions were more painful than it should be due to baby’s position. It was something my OBGYN told me could happen a week before and my husband knew. I asked him for help, tried to wake him up. He said: what about getting a C-section? Me: why are you saying that? Him: you’re not tolerating well pain Me: the doctor told us that my labour could be more difficult but I’m sure about what I want He grabbed a pillow and told me he’ll sleep a bit more. Let me the whole bed so I could do my stuff. I spent that night from 1-2 am to 5 am alone. Crying because the pain was horrible. Walking on the bedroom, doing on my self the massages the midwife teach us to relief the pain. At some point I was on my knees, crying and looking at him snoring on the floor. That day I felt so alone. When he woke up he helped me. Our midwife came at 6 am. I was 7 cm dilated. Had a very difficult labour, needed oxitocin. Finally gave birth our baby at 6pm. He asked me to forgive him for how he acted at night and told me he was proud of me and that he wouldn’t be able to tolerate the pain as I did. Had a tear in my vagina. Suffered a lot the first pp days. He was watching porn 15 days after in front of me. Pressured me for sex and I gave him blowjobs until I was clear. Had pain the first times during sex. Cry after while he was sleeping. At some point months ago I forbid porn on our relationship and now is allowed again because he’ll never stop watching and I’m tired of begging him to get better on sex so I please myself when I can. Still cry about this.