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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Present-Concert3127 on 2023-09-08 01:43:43.
We are three siblings, me (26M), my sister (24F) and my younger sister (21F). My 24 year old sister left home four years ago to travel the world. At first she travelled the Europe with a small savings. In time, she became a minor influencer. She travelled many countries using both her money from influencer work and rich bfs.
My mum (she was 53 years old) was diagnosed with colon cancer 2 years ago. Unfortunately, we were late in the diagnosis and my mum’s immune system was not very strong. These two years were very difficult and the biggest thing my mother wanted most during this period was for her daughter to visit her.
My mother was very fond of my sister all her life and at first she did not want her to travel the world. My sister left the country against my mother’s wishes and only came to visit us twice during this period and one of them was before cancer. For 2 years after my mother was diagnosed, she always wanted her daughter to visit her and cried every time she spoke to her on the phone.
Me and my family repeatedly spoke to my sister and told her that she needed to visit my mum, but each time she made up some other fucking excuse, always promising to come “next month”, never keeping any of them. Meanwhile, she was posting fucking stories on Instagram. When she came to visit 1.5 years after the diagnosis, she only stayed for a week. My mum was crying when she left the house.
We lost my mum three days ago. The funeral was the next day and she couldn’t even make it to the funeral because she was in Indonesia. She could only come home in the evening. When she came home, I asked her, “Why the fuck are you here?” She told me that this was her house. I said, “You couldn’t even make it to the funeral. The woman cried for you the whole time, if you’re coming after she’s dead, don’t come at all, get the fuck out.”
As a result, the fight grew, our relatives at home let her in and my father agreed to let her stay. My father and my cousins say that we are going through a difficult time and that we should be united now, even if she made a mistake. I don’t want to be united with that fucker. Everyone says that no matter what, I should forgive her because she is my sister, that I am wrong. I think she should leave the house.
Today I went back home to be with my dad and my little sister, but I don’t talk to her. The fight between us is upsetting them too. AITA?
Edit: I didn’t schedule the funeral. Mum and dad believed that funerals should take place without delay. My mum did the same when she lost her brother.