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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/VanaVisera on 2023-09-07 15:08:00.
So I’m sitting up at the bar talking to a friend of mine. He has to take a phone call so he walks away temporarily. Shortly thereafter, an older man (maybe late 40’s, early 50’s) comes up to me, briefly chats to the bartender to pay for his drinks. Bartender walks away. This creep catches a whiff of my perfume, and says “You’re dangerous. The way you’re dressed and the way you smell, it gets me all fired up.”
I gave him a puzzled look and I say to him “Okay?” with a tone of annoyance in my voice. He then grabs one of my hips and squeezes it. I immediately shuffle back in my seat and give him the cold shoulder. He gets the message and says “Sorry If I offended you” then walks off with my back still turned away from him.
Now it’s the morning after and I’m pretty upset with myself for not doing more. I wish I was more aggressive. I wish I said to him “Don’t touch me.” Made it more clear that what he’s doing is not okay. I get sexually harassed nearly everytime I go out to a bar and while I do verbally tell them I’m offput by it…I wish that I had more of a backbone when it comes to these things. Thing is I get taken completely off guard by it and honestly feel afraid. Which stops me from being as confident and assertive in these situations as I want to be. I can’t believe men think it’s okay to treat women like this. It makes me so mad the more and more I think about it.