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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/EnthusiasmMental1299 on 2023-09-07 15:46:07.
I’m 31 and starting to date again. I’m in a doctoral program very far from my home that I will finish in about 1.5 years. By that time I will be nearly 33. I don’t hate where I live now, but if I’m not tied to this area, I would ideally move closer to my home and my family. The issue is I’m single and want kids. I constantly feel overwhelmed by the stress of dating at this age. It may take years to find someone who is right for me. Even after I meet the right person, it takes years to get a relationship to the point of having kids with that person. If I date now and meet someone, it will feel too soon to ask them to move with me once I graduate, but at the same time I don’t want to stay in this location for someone unless I am madly in love with them. If I wait until I graduate and move to a new location to date again, I will basically be 33 before I can start looking which makes it more unlikely that I will meet someone who is a good fit for me and develop the relationship in time to have kids. I’m overwhelmed and stressed by this situation