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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/uleftmenochoice13 on 2023-09-06 21:21:29.
i (31f) guess i should start off by explaining that early in the month of august, i quit my job. i’ve been actively looking for work though and today i was hired on the spot during an interview (yay me)
i had a couple of dollars saved up in case of emergencies. the position is completely remote. im a medium to long nails kinda girly. i love doing my nails so you can imagine how hard it is for me to not be able to get my nails done because of not having the extra money. i decided to ask my partner (32m) if he would let me borrow (yes i asked to borrow and said id pay back once i was settled in with the job) i told him i wanted to take off my current long nails and get short nails so that i can be able type on my computer comfortably. maybe this was my mistake? thinking i could just ask him for a simple favor.
he goes off to say “i dont like you with nails. so why would i pay for them? makes no sense” i took it lightly and laughed it off telling him he technically wouldnt be paying for them because i planned on giving it back. i just wanted short nails to be able to type better (even though im typing all of this with my long nails and havent missed a beat. yay me again) he proceeds to say “ma’am, you are working remote, you dont need freaking nails.” i told him to just forget i even asked because he was being a jerk about it and i rather he had just said no. he said he wasn’t being a jerk and was just trying to teach me about priorities. which i get where hes coming from but the delivery of it was so bad and i dont know if im the one in the wrong. i personally feel like it wasnt that big of a deal and he turned it into something it wasnt nor should have been. i was so happy for getting the new job, and now i just feel really shitty.
this also isnt the first time he does this. he seems to have a problem with anything that i want to do to make myself feel good about myself. he doesnt like the nails. doesnt like me wearing lashes and also doesnt like when i wear makeup.
just wanna know, am i being dramatic and sensitive? am i not being understanding? am i really the asshole here? thanks in advance! <3