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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ndktownfngkr on 2023-09-07 03:04:01.
I’m 24 he’s 31
Cooking is my love language. He does all the dishes in return.
Every time I cook, he criticizes it down to the smallest thing like “I don’t want to eat it because I don’t like the texture or shape of the seasoning or the colour looks gross” etc etc but it’s worse than that, that’s just an example.
Sometimes he compares me to his incredible mommy’s cooking that can’t be beat. I don’t think about it too much and try not to let it bother me significantly.
Today I asked him to get his mom’s recipes and I will cook them. he had the audacity to lecture me and rant on and on about how “afghani women train their whole life to make the food they make like you need at least 15 years of experience of cooking you don’t understand” not realizing how insulting it was. I kept saying “just get me the recipes and I’ll cook them it’s not that hard!” But he kept mansplaining like I’m STUPID.
I’m a very good cook, he’s just afghani and extremely picky. I make great pastas, chicken, authentic curries (asafatida level), and I can make anything. I’ve attempted afghani dishes many many times. I’ve nailed some (to his standards) and the rest are “not good enough”
I got so insulted by the comment that I can’t cook his moms meals unless I’ve been cooking for a certain amount of years. So beyond insulting.
How do I make him stfu and understand that he either eats what I make and appreciates it genuinely or he can waste what little money he makes on eating outside food without coming off as a manipulative bitch? I’m not his mom, I don’t want to treat him like a son and give him time out or punishment. I just need him to stop being a mother-complex narcissist.