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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Father4master0 on 2023-09-06 19:11:16.
My wife is irate with me and calling me controlling and saying I want her to have no social life, etc, because recently I found out that where she works as a receptionist (ratio is 2 girls to about 30 guys), they’ve been getting off around 3 pm some Friday’s, and while most people leave, including the other female, her, her manager, and a “few other guys” drink together in the managers office. (And I’m upset. She said she didn’t tell me about it and hid it from me because “she knew how I would act.” For context, she has a social life. Even with 4 kids, she still plays at least 4-5 gigs a month (used to be more like 7-9 but I was exhausted and our therapist agreed she should cut back).
Important Edit: I wanted to leave this out to see what people thought, but she cheated on me one year ago or so. We made two rules in therapy (she made 2 as well). Mine were 1) she doesn’t add a guy to her personal social media or into her phone if I don’t also know of him 2) she tells me about time spent with guys I don’t know (like if she had a guy but her a drink after one of her gigs and chatted with him) - reasoning here was that I don’t want to find out from someone other than my wife who saw her “having drinks with some guy and laughing”