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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throw_away_jones007 on 2023-09-06 14:47:14.
At work I do a lot of extra stuff, company party planning, pick up extra shifts, etc. and get extra pto as one of the compensations. Due to this I end up getting maxed out PTO and use it regularly. Well, I have a major certificate test next week and wanted to get all of my school work done for the next few weeks and spend a large time studying and doing practice exams in preparation for my test.
I took the whole week, after labor day, off in order to do this. I didn’t tell my wife, because I knew she would start asking me to do other stuff, go places, etc. Despite my intention for pto being academically based. I do have kids, and I know I cannot study for 12 hours a day so I would break it up every few hours and do some stuff with them.
Well, my my first day was fine because my wife was working and my kids were out of the house. So I was able to complete almost all of my 2 weeks worth of school work.
Day 2 my wife starts doing the “you cannot stop studying to play with your son?”, “he wants to go outside, can you take him?”, etc. I told her “this is why I didn’t mention having pto. Because from your perspective I am still “working”, yet you aren’t going to take it that way.” She said I’m an asshole for lying to her. Maybe I am, but i know my wife. She gets on me to do extra stuff while i’m working from home, so if I’m not “working” but still studying i knew she would push it even more. She even does the whole “you better pass your test” crap yet seems to get in the way of my studying unless it’s late at night when she’s asleep.