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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/TopHeavySeedlings on 2023-09-06 16:27:23.

I’m in a relationship with a man who has been fantastic. He hits all the bare minimum respect requirements (which shouldn’t be applauded but is sometimes hard to find) while also having a great sense of humor to match mine, being very physically attractive to me, and takes the initiative to plan fun dates and gifts with my interests in mind.

Because of the distance, we only really see each other on the weekends, and we’d both been very busy over the holiday weekend with our personal lives so we planned to call and catch up. I gave him some days that I would have large chunks of time free.

He picked last night. We talked for around 2 hours which is a good amount of time, but a little shorter than we usually talk. He’s chronically sick and he told me he’d been feeling bad because he overextended himself over the weekend and wanted to get off the phone unless I had anything else to share. He asked if I was still free tomorrow and asked to continue the conversation then, which I was cool with.

I ran some errands and worked out. Then I checked his location. I don’t know I was kind of worried about him since sometimes “feeling not so great” can mean he’s actually in the ER and doesn’t want to freak me out.

He was at a friends house. A male friend that I know. They’ve been friends for a long time and said friend is only back in town for a little bit of time (in his parents house) before he goes back to the city he moved to.

If he had just said he had plans I would’ve been fine with it. Especially considering this close friend is only around for a limited time. Even if the plans came up during the phone call I would’ve been fine with it. Two hours on the phone is definitely enough for me to feel connected.

When I checked his location, it had been several hours since we hung up and he was just pulling up to friend’s house so it’s possible he started feeling a little better or took a nap or something.

I just don’t understand. I feel so stupid for worrying about him.