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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/IamasimpforObi-Wan on 2023-09-06 13:56:53.

Our wedding is going to be in April and I am currently ordering the last details, including the wedding cake. I talked to a good friend about it and she was offended that I thought about only ordering it big enough for my fiancé and I.

My reasoning: I have multiple allergies / autoimmune diseases including celiacs. Since I want to be able to eat my own wedding cake, it needs to be gluten free, which is in and of itself much more expensive than a normal one. Also, some of our guest have various allergies ranging from lactose to nuts. So catering to all the allergies in one cake would be nearly impossible and definitely really expensive. So I thought why not offer different sheet cakes that take into account the different allergies (one without nuts, one without milk etc) and since we’re having a buffet anyways, all guests can freely choose what to get. (The buffet will be monitored by the caterer to ensure no cross-contamination will happen)

My friend says it would be a severe disregard of tradition to not serve everyone a slice of wedding cake. Since we have invited a number of people who are quite traditional in their thinking I now wonder if she’s right and if it would cause a problem.