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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Key-Gift2130 on 2023-09-06 04:55:14.

(throwaway obviously) This happened a couple days ago. I (34M) have a 9 year old daughter who picked up playing piano at 5 and I seriously see her as a prodigy. She composes her own symphonies. She is destined to be massively successful & I’ve gotten her to play at weddings, a church a few times and other social events.

Anyways, my sister (26f) one of those ‘rainbow baby’ situations and given that fact my whole family has obsessed over her since her birth. She’s incredibly entitled and spoiled and was especially upset when our parents began caring more about my late wife’s pregnancy with our daughter.

You may think she and I act the same - but my daughter’s piano talent is not my or her only personality. It just takes up a large portion of our lives. And it’s not all I talk about or the only thing my daughter has for herself.

We had family fly in from Germany for one of her big recitals for the first time in a few years.

My daughter did amazingly, but the whole time my sister was saying that they’re only impressed because of how young she is and that she could do this and none of us would be amazed. She proceeded to make the whole recital about herself and when we went out to dinner to celebrate after, and my sister was making snarky comments to my daughter that it wasn’t that good.

I asked her why she had such a fucking vendetta against a 9 year old and why she couldn’t just for once have the attention be on someone else for a damn night and that if she was going to complain she shouldn’t have come at all.

She was very upset at this and told me how I ‘took away her childhood’ by forcing her to pursue music (which she had come to ME and her late mother about) and it ensued a massive fight between us and she ended up leaving early and going back to her hotel room.

My parents say that I shouldn’t have lashed out on her like that and they have since apologized for making her feel ‘left out.’

They leave for their flight tomorrow night and my sister won’t talk to me.

So, AITA?