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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Party_River_2138 on 2023-09-05 20:48:41.
I (28f) and my husband (27m) share a 3 year old together. My husbands uncle passed away and he want to attend the funeral this weekend( Thursday to Sunday, which would also be the longest I’ve been away from my son). I can not get off of work to drive up with him and we can afford to just fly up for the day. My son and I have never met this side of the family and haven’t seen my in-laws in 2 years due to living in another state. My husband want to take our son up to meet that side of the family but I am not comfortable with it and he says I’m being selfish. My husband is a great dad but he has very little patience with our son who is just now getting into the exploring and asking a million questions phase and I don’t have full trust in my in laws to watch him properly(due to many personal experiences I had when we lived with them for a year). I also don’t have faith that my husband would shut down any rude comments made by his mother or her family(they can be racist and rude,but has gotten better since we married, my son is half black) I just need some advice or outside opinions other than mine.