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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/tangledbrain7 on 2023-09-05 20:26:13.


I first noticed this when I was around age 15 and was introduced to an older man that my sister worked with at the time (he was a pastor). He reached out to shook my dad’s hand, so I reached my hand out as well. Everybody laughed and he made a snide comment about me being “eager.”

At 21, while visiting a family member’s christian church, a man came over and shook my dad’s hand. I reached my hand out again, and he scoffed and said “let me shake his hand first,” shook my (now) husband’s hand, and then regretfully said, “okay, now I guess I can shake yours.”

Just a few weeks ago, my husband and I were meeting up with some of his distant relatives that I’d never met before and he’d only met a few times. The male cousin (in his 40’s, Mormon) reached out and shook my husband’s hand, so I instinctively offered mine as well. He laughed and let out a surprised “oh?” before shaking mine.

Is this a religious thing? A misogynistic thing?I’m sure this has happened to me more than these three times, but these are the ones tha really stand out to me. Why is it so weird to shake a woman’s hand?