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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Far_Concentrate_3743 on 2023-09-05 08:22:08.
I have stage IV cancer with young kids and wife. Probably going to die within 1-2 years so my fuse is shortened with certain people. In-law says to me “It must be so hard for your family and what your family is going through. I want you to know this is not your fault”. They have said something similar to me before and I just said “I know” and moved on. This time I couldn’t take it and said “no shit, it’s pretty obvious I didn’t deserve cancer and I know it’s not my fault for getting it”.
She became upset and told a few people I was rude to her. Should I apologize? Am I misunderstanding what point she was trying to make? The only way I can think of taking it is that there could be a thought in people’s mind that it my fault for getting cancer and making things so hard for my young family. I’m young, lived a healthy life (not that I would deserve cancer even if I didn’t) so I don’t get it. Am I being overly sensitive? Was she just looking for a Good Will Hunting moment? I honestly don’t get her point.