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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Candy_Bottle8361 on 2023-09-04 05:56:45.
Okay, so this is my first time in here, aka Reddit, so feel free to judge me, and if I am actually an asshole, just tell me what I should do next.
I (34F) just had a small party to celebrate my daughter’s (7F) birthday with my friends, relatives, and some of my neighbors. My daughter, let’s call her Vivia, had her exams just yesterday and was quite exhausted, so she was sleeping on the couch while we were arranging all the props and food, and I decided to just wake her up when everyone had arrived.
Everything was actually going well, and when everyone had arrived, I wole her up and we went to the backyard where the party was held. While we were speaking, my mom, who I didn’t expect to be there, suddenly started complaining about Vivian not having respect for her since she didn’t do “mano po” (an action in my country, the Philippines, where you would press the back of an elder’s hand to your forehead as respect) and how rude she was sleeping in at her birthday.
She even joked about how she herself should correct my daughter’s behavior just like she did mine and my sister’s behavior, which I really did not like because my mom used to say that she would cut our tongues when we (sis and I) were younger if we did not say “po” and “opo” (words we add to our sentences to make it more polite and use it to speak with the elders) and her actions actually made me really sensitive and insecure as a child, so I didn’t want that to happen to my daughter, who was very bright and extroverted, which I really liked.
I immediately told my mom that if she tried to really correct my daughter’s behavior, I would cut contact with her and no longer consider her my daughter’s grandma. I think I may have overreacted a little, but I really couldn’t help it, so AITA?