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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Top-Statistician2284 on 2023-09-04 06:40:24.

My parents kicked me out of the house when I came out. They didn’t want a d**e daughter.

It’s been fifteen years and I am happy. My wife and I have two children. We have our own home. Her parents are amazing grandparents and accepted me since they met me.

I ran into my brother two years ago when I was out with my kids. He was surprised to see me. Nobody in my family had heard from me since they all turned their backs on me. He said my parents had been mourning me for years assuming I was dead. I told him no such luck. He asked if I would please call my parents to let them know I was okay. I reluctantly agreed.

I called from a burner number because I didn’t want them in my life if they hadn’t changed. They said they had lost all hope of seeing me again and that they weren’t sure my brother was telling the truth about me being alive and having children.

After talking for about a year I agreed to let them meet my wife and our children. Everything was going great until my father asked which one was mine.

I said they were both my kids. He said that he meant which one was biologically his grandchild. I said they were both my children and that is all he needed to know.

He said he didn’t feel like he should care about a kid he wasn’t related to by blood. Strangely enough my brother has a stepdaughter. I asked my brother if he knew my dad didn’t care about his daughter. My dad said that isn’t what he meant. That he only wanted to know which one I gave birth to. I said it wasn’t any if his fucking business and we eventually ended up yelling at each other. It culminated with me saying that both kids were mine and I would only allow him in their lives if he treated them the same. And that if I ever so much as got the impression that he knew which one wasn’t biologically mine I would cut him and my mother out of my life like a cancer.

My wife says I was too harsh and my brother days I’m an asshole for not acknowledging that my father is trying. Not hard enough in my opinion.