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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/QuirkyFlounder4777 on 2023-09-04 01:07:37.

So I’ve just started having intercourse with my boyfriend, which we haven’t been able to do until recently because I was so tight that he couldn’t penetrate me. I went to the gynecologist and she recommended doing some massages and slowly working up to him being able to penetrate me, which we did. It took a month or so of slowly working towards it a few times a week, and we were finally able to have intercourse about three weeks ago. The first two or three times we had sex it was painful for me, which I knew it would be because I had never had penetrative sex before. He was very gentle and every time he’s started slow and shallow and only kept going if I told him it was ok.

I figured that it would start feeling good once it stopped hurting, but now that it doesn’t hurt anymore it doesn’t feel like anything. I’m not sure if it’s just me or if there’s something we can be doing differently. I can feel the sensation of him going in and out, so it’s not numbness, but it doesn’t feel good or bad. It feels like… nothing.

We’re both pretty inexperienced, and so I’m wondering if anyone else has had any experience with this and has any tips.

Also, I just wanted to add in that he’s great about making sure I’m stimulated, and he only does things with my consent. It’s not that I’m not orgasming when we’re intimate, it’s just that I’m bummed I get absolutely nothing with vaginal intercourse because he loves it. I love being able to do that with him because sex for us is a loving experience, but I think him knowing I don’t get any stimulation has made it less appealing to him.

I’m not concerned with being able to orgasm from it, but I would like to be able to feel even a little bit of pleasure.

Help?