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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/batmel on 2023-09-03 21:55:15.
As the title says - I’ve been with my SO for 2+ years, we are both in our 30s. Everything was great and he constantly showered me with love, talked about us being life partners, and we were actively planning a joint future together. Until he broke up with me today because I am not willing to have children and he is “scared of what a life without children would be”.
He grew up very christian and always said his perfect view of a future includes marriage and children - i told him from the beginning that never once in my life did i have a desire to have children and I am unsure if this will ever change. Well, it didn’t yet. And after a few conversations he told me this is a dealbreaker for him because he is sure that he will be happy with me for the next 15-20 years, but he is scared that he might have regrets in 25+ years when he is looking back on his life and regrets the choice of not having had children.
This breakup came completely out of the blue for me because we just finished a romantic getaway vacation where we jointly celebrated my birthday and everything was fine
This also comes on top of a lot of fights with my family where they constantly tell me that they are disappointed in me and my life choices because i don’t have kids. And i just feel so … defeated? I have graduated with a great major, have a fantastic job where i have a senior mgmt position besides being so young, have a great group of friends and travelled the world. But it seems like society, my SO, and my family only care about my reproductive system - and my active choice of not being a mother is so repulsive that people would rather walk away. Anyone else feeling like they are never enough/good enough?