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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Josuwan on 2023-09-03 18:56:21.

Rant TW: non-consensual touching

So my spouse and I were laying in bed. My spouse told me that they were hungry. I tell them that they can easily go get some of left over pizza in the fridge.

My spouse then starts tickling me. I am very sensitive and the slightest touch. Anywhere will get a reaction. I have told them before that being tickled is not an enjoyable way of being touched. They kept doing it and I start moving more and turn my back to them. They then big spoon me and restrain me as they go for areas that are very ticklish. At this point I am hyperventilating and can barely breath. I wait for my spouse to get tired and stop.

They finally get bored and let me go. Now the tell me the part that hurt. They said that they don’t know why I let them do this to me and that it would have been easier if I had just gone and got them some food.

I couldn’t respond and was just trying to breath.

I couldn’t believe that not getting up to prepare food was why I was tickled. I have been tickled before when I didn’t want but this time felt different. I felt hurt and defeated. At the same time I didn’t want to argue as I will just lose as my spouse will use the force of their personality to win or deflect.

I know that this relationship is not healthy and I am not sure how much longer it will survive. I just wanted to rant a bit and write out how I feel.

TL:DR Spouse tickled me because I didn’t get up from bed to get them some food.