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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Puzzleheaded_Rip6227 on 2023-09-03 14:48:20.
First time posting and English is not my first language.
I 27(F) and my husband 24(M) have an agreement that every Saturday he sleeps in and I take fully care of the baby (10 month old) during the morning and on Sundays he takes the baby and I sleep in.
So this Saturday the baby woke up around 7 am, I wake up at the same time, change her and go make the bottle, shortly after I’m feeding her my husband shows up in the living room saying he can’t sleep anymore. I understood, I mean it has happened to me before and it’s completely natural.
At night my husband turns to me and said that since he woke up early that day that he would be sleeping in the next day (Sunday), I said no since that is not our agreement and that it’s not my fault he didn’t sleep in. He said that it’s not fair because he works and I don’t.
To give a little more context I’m a SAHM and he works full time during the week. The thing is I do most of the household chores (which I don’t mind btw) and his only responsibility is taking out the trash and unload the dishwasher. I do everything else + take care of the baby, he usually just helps me with baths and watches/plays with her while I make dinner. We’re fine with how things are, we’re a happy couple and family but I don’t think it’s okay for him to throw around that he works and I don’t when it was a joint decision that I would stay home with the baby until she turns 1.
He ended up waking early and letting me sleep in today but when I woke up he let me know that he was really tired and that I wasn’t nice to him and should’ve let him sleep in instead.
AITA for not letting my husband sleep in?
Extra info: we usually wake up at the same time during the week since I pack his bag for work, so I don’t sleep more than him during the week and when my baby naps I do chores that I can’t do when she’s awake.