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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/bellow_whale on 2023-09-02 18:04:06.
I read so many posts on here where women complain about male partners who seem uninterested in them and don’t put effort into their relationship. I have also experienced this with dating men myself. Some examples are:
- wanting to focus on hobbies or spend time with friends instead of spending time with their partner
- not putting effort into planning dates
- not remembering important information about their partner e.g. anniversaries or allergies
- not being interested in their partner’s feelings or experiences
- not being receptive or helpful when their partner tries to discuss issues in the relationship
As a woman, if I was exhibiting these behaviors, that would be a clear sign that I was pulling away and not interested in the relationship anymore. Yet this seems to be really common for men in relationships, and it is just baffling to me.
If they do not want to make an effort to actually be present and involved in their relationship, why are they in it? I know that many people are going to respond by saying that they just want sex and someone to clean up after them. But my question is: WHY? Why don’t they want to have a genuine connection and cultivate a meaningful relationship? Isn’t it lonely for them to hold their partner at a distance like that? Don’t they need to feel a sense of emotional connection in order to make their lives meaningful? And if not, why not? Why is that something women seem to need more?